Hey there! I want to talk about something that could make our lives easier because, sometimes, we are the cause of our own problems. Sometimes, we feel feelings, and we don’t know what to do with them. Here, I want to talk about forgiveness.

We've all said a quick "I'm sorry" at some point. But wait a moment; it's more important than what we learned as kids might suggest.

Let's take a moment to explore this forgiveness thing together and see what it's really all about. Cool?

In the last few years, I've discovered the deeper meaning of forgiveness. It's a powerful tool that heals the heart and liberates us from resentment and pain caused by others.

Back when I started my spiritual journey 15 years ago, my wise mentor at the time tipped me off about forgiveness and making amends. she promised it would shake up my life and relationships for the better. AND SHE WAS RIGHT.

Fast forward to today. As I started my practice, I realized that I needed to forgive and let go of some baggage trauma from the root cause. And I help others to do it too.

Turns out, holding onto resentments and grudges is like hoarding baggage. It blocks the free flow of life energy through us. And you know what happens when that flow gets interrupted? Depression, low energy, anger, and even physical ailments and disease can come knocking. Crazy, right?

Forgiveness, my friend, is a powerhouse that heals the heart and free us from the grips of resentment and pain caused by others.

But Firstly, it begins with forgiving ourselves. Remember, everyone makes mistakes—it's part of being human. Understand that you didn't know any better at the time. Treat yourself with kindness, and compassion like you would a friend. Learning from our mistakes and understanding the lessons are important so we don’t repeat and hurt ourselves again and again. See the good in yourself and the growth—all the positive stuff. Welcome forgiveness into your heart.

This is a good strat to breaking free from resentment, and choosing to gain serenity and peace.

During one of my visits to a bookstore in Israel, I came across an incredible book by Mabel Katz, an expert on the ancient Hawaiian practice of ho'oponopono and the author of "The Easiest Way" Her book even deepend my approach towards forgiveness. She made it even easier for me to forgive.

Katz points out forgiveness as a natural gift within us. By illustrating how nature and children effortlessly welcome forgiveness, she highlights forgiveness as a natural gift within us.

Unfortunately, with cultural norms and social media, holding on to our ego and resentment is like a power. This is false because by holding resentment, we are like people who are drinking poison and hoping it will kill the other person.

And of course, The Torah offers words of wisdom on forgiveness and personal responsibility to whatever happens to us.

So if you are not already familiar with the Ho'oponopono practice. At the core of Ho'oponopono is a simple yet powerful mantra:

"I am sorry,

please forgive me,

I forgive you too,

thank you" (you can also add "I love you" if you want).

This meditation practice acts like a troubleshooter, aiming to bring back balance, healing, and harmony to ourselves and our relationships. Letting our subconscious mind know that we are taking responsibility for our parts and easily letting go of the other person with love. The Hawaiian word Ho'oponopono translates to "make things right" or "bring things back into balance" in English.Cool, right?

According to Ho'oponopono, triggers and what happens to us on the outside actually mirror our energy, and Mabel Katz in her book stresses that holding onto resentment hurts us. She highlights the importance of taking 100% responsibility for our healing and releasing the role of victimhood. By taking responsibility, you are no longer a victim.

For sure, when we go through this yucky situation, it is not sexy.

Still, there are no shortcuts. Letting go is a gradual process; think about that as an important thing to do so you don’t harm yourself. Don't let others occupy an essential piece of real estate in your mind, body, and soul, ensuring your personal well-being.

I will add that by forgiving, you open the energy to flow and bring more abundance and the things you want. Basically, by choosing to forgive, you are empowering yourself towards emotional healing and a more fulfilling life.

For sure, When we navigate through challenging situations, it's not pleasant- you don’t feel sexy.

Also, Letting go is a gradual process, and approaching it as an important step so we don’t self-harm and ensures that others don't occupy a crucial piece of real estate in our mind, body, and soul, so we are preserving our personal well-being.

Additionally, forgiving opens the energy flow, attracting more abundance and the things you desire. Essentially, choosing to forgive empowers you towards emotional healing and a more fulfilling life.

For sure, When we navigate through challenging situations, it's not pleasant- you don’t feel sexy.

Also, Letting go is a gradual process, and approaching it as an important step so we don’t self-harm and ensures that others don't occupy a crucial piece of real estate in our mind, body, and soul, so we are preserving our personal well-being.

Additionally, forgiving opens the energy flow, attracting more abundance and the things you desire. Essentially, choosing to forgive empowers you towards emotional healing and a more fulfilling life.

It helps to shade mental and emotional baggage as well. If you're still not convinced that forgiving your mom, dad, in-laws, ex, kindergarten teacher, or high school crush is necessary, consider the following.

Here are some of the benefits of Forgiveness:

By forgiving and letting go you will experience Emotional Freedom- you are not a prisoner

Inner Peace: Forgiveness creates space for love, compassion, and understanding.
Improved Relationships: It opens the door to healing and healthier connections.
Personal Growth: you will learn lessons that will allow empathy, resilience, and emotional intelligence believe it or not.

How to Let Go Without Hurting Yourself Even More:

Awareness: Accept and acknowledge the pain without judgment, truly being loving and compassionate.
Recognition: Understand that forgiveness is for you. Choose it for your own benefits and as a decision for personal growth.
Compassion: Choose to open your heart and be compassionate and understanding for those who caused pain. They might not have known better; if they did, they would not have done it.
Release and Let Go: Gradually release negative emotions and attachments to the past events.
Ho'oponopono Meditation: Now, my favorite tool - the Ho'oponopono Meditation, an easy, simple mantra for healing and harmony: "I am sorry, please forgive me, I forgive you too, thank you" (repeat x4 or as many times as needed). The beauty is that the person doesn't even need to be there; you can imagine them and say it to dissolve the negative energy between you and them.
Supportive Community: Connect with groups sharing similar experiences for validation and inspiration.- The 12 step program Al Anon for relationships can be a great community for you if you attract people with addictions and you lose your serenity again and again.

As mentioned earlier, letting go is a gradual process, crucial to avoid harming yourself and preventing physical or emotional health problems. Most importantly, it opens the channel to be a vessel for God's change and allows you to be yourself fully without unnecessary emotional charge. It will open gates of mazal, luck, parnasa, money, soul mates and so much more so cheers to you. Go and open your heart.

If you want to learn more about forgiveness read my blog The Importance of Forgiveness: Healing the Heart

Remember, your mental and emotional health matters, and with the right tools, like the mindfulness techniques you can navigate challenges with ease.

And if you need help and have questions, feel free to send me a message and connect with me.

Sending you all the love and light on your healing journey!

If you're curious to dive deeper into these strategies or share your thoughts, reach out to me contact. Let's make 2024 a year of unconditional love, courage and success, advancing toward your vision and goals one action at a time.

I'd love to help you get started: To assist you on this journey, I've prepared a Free workbook on 26 Ways to Release Mental & Emotional Baggage In Less Than 5 Minutes A day. Or if you like to join Baggage Be-Gone Bootcamp here the link

Wishing you a day filled with small steps towards a healthier, happier you!

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